Three Ones is a simple and Spirit-led way to live out outreach one step at a time. It’s not a program or a script; it’s a lifestyle of walking with others toward Jesus through everyday relationships. It follows Jesus’ example through making personal connections, showing deep compassion, and being led by the Holy Spirit. Built around One Prayer, One Conversation, and One Story, this framework helps believers join God’s mission right where they are. Whether you’re just beginning or growing in outreach, it starts with what you already have: One Prayer. One Conversation. One Story.
The world is changing, but the good news of Jesus still speaks—especially when shared in simple, meaningful ways. The Three Ones is:
Each “One” flows from how Jesus lived and led others to faith.
→ Jesus prayed (Luke 5:16), engaged in conversations (John 4), and encouraged people to share their stories (Mark 5:19–20).
In today’s world of distraction, skepticism, and spiritual curiosity, people long for authenticity, purpose, and connection.
→ The Three Ones helps you meet people where they are—with grace, not pressure.
Outreach isn’t about big moments—it’s about small, faithful steps in real relationships.
→ Real transformation often begins with just one prayer, one conversation, or one shared story—small steps that grow through genuine relationships.
With the Three Ones, anyone can begin. And like any relationship, it deepens through honest connection, gentle reflection, and a heart willing to walk alongside others in love.
→ Anyone can take one step—pray for someone, talk with someone, or share a story. The Three Ones makes outreach simple, natural, and doable.
One simple, sincere prayer can open the door to someone’s journey toward Jesus. When you pray by name for just one person, you connect with God’s heart and begin walking with them in love and faith. It’s not about saying the perfect words—it’s about letting God move in you before He moves through you.
One meaningful conversation can become the bridge that draws someone closer to Jesus. When you listen with love, ask thoughtful questions, and show genuine curiosity, you create space for trust to grow. Conversations don’t need to be deep right away—just real. Outreach grows one honest exchange at a time.
One honest story can plant a seed of hope in someone’s heart. Whether it’s your personal journey with Jesus or a simple story from Scripture, sharing with love and humility opens space for God to speak. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a willingness to share what’s real and true.
"Outreach is not a program or technique. It’s simply walking with people through everyday life, just like Jesus did."
People come to know Jesus in many different ways, but most follow common steps on their journey—from being non-Christians to becoming followers of Christ and growing in their faith. By understanding these steps, you’ll be better equipped to have caring, thoughtful conversations and to walk alongside others with the love, patience, and timing of Jesus. For each step, you’ll find practical resources like videos, websites, conversation tips, and Bible studies—designed to help you support people as they take their next step toward Jesus and spiritual maturity.
Many people begin their journey toward faith with deep hesitation. They’re often guarded and cautious, keeping emotional and spiritual distance. While they may not openly criticize Christianity, they quietly wrestle with whether Christians—or God—can truly be trusted. Some are skeptical of motives, assuming Christians are pushy or have hidden agendas. Others carry negative past experiences, such as being hurt by the church or growing up in environments where faith was mocked or dismissed. Cultural influence also shapes their view—portraying Christians as narrow-minded, anti-science, or hypocritical. As a result, they’re often uninterested in spiritual conversations and may avoid them entirely. And yet, beneath the surface, many are craving authenticity. They long to encounter people who are real, humble, and kind—people who live out their faith with no strings attached.
That’s why relationships matter most in this early stage. People don’t trust resources—they trust people. No book or video can replace the power of a consistent, caring friendship. Many carry deep skepticism that only softens when they experience genuine care from someone who reflects the heart of Jesus. Over time, trust begins to grow—not through clever arguments, but through steady love. Each moment of kindness becomes a seed of hope, slowly breaking down walls and opening the door for deeper conversations.
Walk slowly. Love genuinely. Listen well. Trust God for the growth.
Your role isn’t to push but to be present. This stage is about patience, presence, and trust-building.
After trust begins to form, some people slowly start to open up. They may not be ready to embrace Christianity, but they’re less guarded than before. Curiosity is stirring. They’re more willing to talk about spiritual things—not in a confrontational way, but with real questions and wonder.
At this stage, they might say things like:
“Why do you believe in God?”
“How do you make sense of suffering?”
“What makes your faith matter to you?”
They’re not asking to start a debate. They’re testing the waters—wondering if faith has something real to offer. This openness is often subtle. It shows up in moments of vulnerability, deeper questions, or a quiet willingness to listen.
But this is also a fragile stage. People may still carry past doubts, assumptions, or fears. If the conversation feels forced or if they sense judgment, they may pull back. That’s why tone, timing, and trust remain essential.
This is not the time to give them “all the answers.” It’s time to walk gently with them, offering grace, humility, and hope as they explore.
Stay curious. Speak with grace. Watch for God’s open doors.
As trust grows, some people shift from guarded openness to genuine curiosity. They’re not ready to believe yet, but they’re beginning to consider the possibility that Christianity might hold real answers. Their interest is often sincere, though still tentative. They ask thoughtful questions—not to argue, but to understand.
You might hear them say things like:
“What if there is something more to life?”
“Why does Jesus matter so much to Christians?”
“What do you mean when you say God is personal?”
They’re exploring—not just ideas, but meaning. They’re weighing what they’ve heard, seen, or experienced, and beginning to wonder: Could this be true? Could this be for me?
This stage is marked by thoughtful curiosity, spiritual openness, and a search for connection. But it’s also a time of tension. Old beliefs or wounds may compete with new possibilities. People may lean in, then back away—uncertain of what they’ll find if they go further.
That’s why this stage requires patient presence, a listening posture, and spiritual sensitivity. It’s less about giving answers and more about helping them want to find them.
Be a steady, gracious companion on their journey toward truth.
Invite Questions, Not Pressure
Say things like, “That’s a really thoughtful question—what do you think about it?” Invite reflection. Don’t rush to correct or convince.
Let the Bible Speak Softly
You might gently introduce Scripture—something simple and meaningful—like, “This verse really helped me when I felt lost.” Let God’s Word stir their curiosity.
Connect the Dots Gently
If they share struggles or longings, connect them to deeper spiritual themes: hope, purpose, forgiveness. You’re not giving a sermon—just pointing toward meaning.
Model a Thinking Faith
Be honest about your own journey—how you’ve wrestled with questions, and what’s led you to trust Jesus. Help them see that faith is not blind; it’s considered and tested.
Pray Behind the Scenes
Ask God to stir their hearts and remove spiritual obstacles. Pray for discernment—when to speak, when to stay silent, when to simply be present.
At this stage, something is clicking. The questions aren’t just about spirituality in general anymore—they’re now pointed toward Jesus. People are beginning to grasp the unique claims of the gospel: who Jesus is, what He’s done, and why it matters personally.
They may not yet have full faith, but there’s a growing sense that the Christian message could actually be true. They’re comparing what they’re learning to their own experience and wondering, “Could this really be for me?” A clearer picture of Jesus is forming—maybe for the first time.
You might hear them say things like:
“I’m starting to see how Jesus is different from other religious leaders.”
“The idea of grace—that God would love me no matter what—is hard to believe, but it’s beautiful.”
“I’ve never thought about the cross this way before.”
Their curiosity is shifting into discovery. The gospel is becoming more than a concept—it’s becoming personal. They may be moved by a story, a Scripture, or a conversation that lingers with them.
But this is also a tender and pivotal time. They’re weighing what it would mean to believe. Past wounds, fears of rejection, or misconceptions about faith can still get in the way. That’s why clarity, compassion, and continued relationship are so important here.
Gently clarify the gospel.
As their understanding deepens, help them connect the dots: who Jesus is, why the cross matters, and how grace is different from religion or good works.
Share how Jesus has changed your life.
Make it personal. Stories of your own transformation or moments of doubt and discovery can help make faith feel real—not just theoretical.
Invite them into Scripture.
Offer to read a short passage together, like a story from the Gospels. Ask, “What stands out to you?” or “What do you think this says about Jesus?”
Focus on Jesus, not behavior.
Avoid moralizing. This isn’t the time to critique their lifestyle—it’s the time to show who Jesus is and how He loves them.
Create space to process.
Don’t rush them. Let them wrestle with questions, doubts, and emotions. A safe, listening presence matters more than having all the right answers.
Pray specifically for revelation.
Ask God to open their heart to the truth of the gospel. Pray for clarity, courage, and the Spirit’s gentle conviction.
Invite them to explore further.
Consider inviting them to Alpha, a gospel-centered Bible study, or a safe small group where they can keep discovering at their pace.
After exploring spiritual questions and discovering who Jesus is, some people begin to realize they’re not meant to walk alone. They’ve tasted glimpses of truth—and now they’re longing for connection, purpose, and a place to call home. They may not have fully committed to Christ yet, but they’re drawn to the warmth and authenticity of Christian community.
At this stage, they might say things like:
“I’ve never felt this kind of welcome before.”
“I wish I had people like this in my life earlier.”
“I don’t agree with everything yet, but I love being around you all.”
They’re not just curious anymore—they’re beginning to belong. Not because of shared beliefs (yet), but because of shared love. They’re building friendships, asking deeper questions, showing up more often. They may still wrestle with doubts, but they’re also experiencing the beauty of being seen, valued, and included.
This is a sacred time. It’s often in community that people see the gospel lived out—in grace, patience, joy, and truth. And that lived witness can soften even the most hesitant hearts.
Caution: People at this stage can still feel like outsiders if they don’t see diversity, authenticity, or space to be real. Overly “churchy” language or pressure to conform too quickly can create distance. What they need most is consistent, welcoming presence—not perfection.
Be a Bridge, Not a Barrier
Invite them into everyday rhythms—meals, small groups, events, or even just coffee. Help them feel like they don’t need to “believe before they belong.”
Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Affirm signs of growth, openness, or relational connection. Simple encouragement like, “I love that you’re here,” or “You ask great questions,” helps them feel seen and safe.
Create Space for Questions and Doubts
Let them wrestle out loud without rushing to fix or correct. Practice listening more than answering. A non-anxious presence builds trust.
Include Them Authentically
Give them low-pressure ways to contribute—bringing snacks, joining a project, helping set up. Let them see they’re needed, not just welcomed.
Model Real Christian Community
Be honest about your own struggles, your need for grace, and how your faith shapes your life. Let them witness community that’s honest, humble, and joyful—not polished and performative.
Pray for Heart Connection
Ask God to help them experience His love not just through theology, but through people—real friendships, spiritual family, and a sense of belonging in the body of Christ.
At this stage, people are no longer just learning about Jesus—they’re starting to live like Him. The truths of Scripture are becoming more than ideas; they’re becoming habits, decisions, and actions. Their faith is becoming visible in their everyday life—how they treat others, how they make choices, and how they respond to challenges.
They might say things like:
“I’ve been trying to love people the way Jesus loves me.”
“I started praying with my kids before school.”
“I’m trying to forgive someone—it’s hard, but I know it’s what God wants.”
This is where transformation takes root. Obedience becomes a response to grace, not duty. People begin to align their lives with God’s Word, one step at a time. They still stumble—but now they’re learning to walk with Jesus, not just talk about Him.
But It’s Not Easy
Applying truth can feel costly. It might mean letting go of old habits, facing conflict, or making countercultural choices. They may wrestle with doubts, inconsistency, or fear of failure. Encouragement, accountability, and grace-filled support are crucial in this season of growth.
As someone matures in their faith, a shift begins—faith is no longer just personal; it becomes purposeful. They start to sense that following Jesus means joining Him in His mission. There’s a growing desire to serve, share, and reflect Christ in everyday life. They may not feel fully equipped, but they’re willing to step out in faith.
At this stage, they might say things like:
“I want to make a difference with my life.”
“How can I share my faith with others?”
“God’s been teaching me so much—I don’t want to keep it to myself.”
“I want my life to point people to Jesus.”
They’re asking deeper questions about purpose, calling, and how to align their life with God’s mission. This stage is marked by an eagerness to grow in love, courage, and obedience—even when it stretches them beyond comfort.
But they also need support—encouragement, practical tools, and community—to stay faithful and fruitful. Without it, they may grow discouraged or unsure of how to keep living missionally in real-life relationships.
Would you like to open your home on a Friday night?
It’s a great way to build friendships with church members in your neighborhood and to pray together for your neighbors to come to know Jesus!
You’d Be Surprised!
Your hobbies and interests can open doors to meaningful relationships. Think about the groups in your community you could join—whether it’s building something, learning a new language, riding motorcycles, or simply doing what you enjoy. You might even be the one to start a new hobby group!
These natural settings often create the best opportunities to share both your story and God’s story in everyday conversations.
These groups are bringing influence, making a difference, and serving both Christian and non-Christian communities.
